This weekend I issued some wedding invitations to my friends. From this experience, I learnt something, "everyone has different ideas so dont take their comments too hard."
Why did I say this? People start to ask you things like
1) How many tables did your "Husband to be" give to your mother?
(It is a part of the "dowry system" that Chinese implement)
2) How much did your "Husband to be" give your mother as a dowry?
3) Did you receive any jewellery?
Do they think that a marriage is a trade?!? Is my mother selling her daughter? I felt that we should follow the traditions but not treat this whole event as if I am a sucker. Well, they (those who ask that few questions above) told me that I cannot think like that. Then.. how should I think? Get as many tables from him as possible? Dig out as much $ from him as possible?
After this encounter, I now understand 2 things
1) Why many Singaporean men say that local gals are materialistic
2) How much another friend of mine, whom just married someone younger and out of her race, have to endure those countless criticism she received from her relatives', friends' and even her closest people around her; her parents'. She really chose to marry someone she loves and believes she will have a future with him. Actually, all she wanted was blessings.
Some people will say that her choice is silly or an act of foolishness... but she said something to me, "You are the main actress thus you understand the most."
Dec 3, 2008
Company party @ THE HOUSE
ah... initially I did not want to go to this event. why? I was too lazy to pull myself to Dempsey Hill.
Its the 1st time I attend a company party in Dempsey Hill. The location was casual.. well, very angmo. There are outdoor sittings with buffet spread. http://www.dempseyhouse.com/
I was glad to make a trip down. Altough I went home empty handed but I had a good time "rubbing shoulders" with my corporate colleagues. I missed them so much!
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